There were glitches, but my audience was apparently more forgiving than I was. Here’s how I quit. Our team is taking extra precautions to ensure your family is safe as well as our counselors. We weren’t ever told with any certainty about that, everything was kept very general) in addicted people, this “chameleon” aspect.
If there’s any area in which something could be added, it’s in your account of stopping: //Here’s how I quit. And hope to write about it more in the near future.
Being not even remotely an expert or even student in any psychological field, I can only speak from experience.
Anyway, actually, you make a very important point.
The SMART recovery website is wonderful and, having been around for 25 years, it should have been included in the graduate course “Understanding the Nature of Addiction” that I just took in 2012, where the 12-step was highlighted as a protocol for successful treatment.
Search for other works by this author on: © 2014 International Communication Association. Many factors can make the recovery process easier or more strenuous, and a toxic ego often presents significant obstacles. We grow up first trusting a parent/guardian, doctors, superheros, teachers, friends, media, religion, employers etc.
A write-up of that talk I’m going to present. Do you always start a conversation with an all-out attack of someone’s ethics and by making unfounded assertions?
That was NOT me (despite the bad stuff I did) and probably not you.
Because it’s so hard to trust themselves, addicts trust the only thing they can trust: their drug, their drink, or the behavior that brings them temporary relief. Quitting attempt #187: I wrote the word “No” in big letters, tacked it to my wall, and recited it 50 times a day, so that I couldn’t stop imagining it. I think that will be the subject of my next post.
For me this giving the impression that some are better than others, it’s not so much the length of time, but what we have learned in that time. This me was always in there, too, I just never had the confidence (or it was knocked out of me at every turn) to embrace it.
t is very helpful for me as well as others. Copyright © 2020 International Communication Association.
If anyone would like to read them, I’d be happy to share. AND I credit (my faith in) God’s help for pulling me through. This is great though, absolutely. And that was a problem for me as a kid.
Hopefully the POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY movement will find its way into addiction treatment. Maybe you were just the latest victim of the Syrian hacking efforts!
Whatever survey you responded to might have been digging for a sociopathic personality.
If you originally registered with a username please use that to sign in. I wish it weren’t negative on the potential role of a higher power.
In fact I gave my class on Thurs the same talk I did at PINC two days earlier. I really don’t know much about it, but I need to learn. © Copyright 2020 Family First Intervention | All Rights Reserved |. I have had a change of “Heart”. Lying about your addiction doesn’t make you “inauthentic”, Redressing addiction — with Internal Family Systems therapy, How to fight addiction in the season of Covid-19, Expediting abstinence: Drugs that can help replace addictive habits, An alternative to abstinence: Craving, care, and harm reduction, Post-addiction Buddhist blues (and how to soothe them) in the era of COVID-19. I’ve recommended it to Victoria, above, based on your description. Anyway, perhaps these questions will come up after your speech… and even if they don’t, I’d be interested in their answers. But the good news is if they get into a support group like Smart , suddenly that changes , and they feel increasingly empowered because so many there do trust them and that they can succeed . Some people develop substance abuse as a way to cope with family trauma. In the last several years since rehab, I’ve thought quite a bit about this “chameleon” aspect. Fascinating, and very relevant to your points here. Ego presents significant challenges to any intervention.
Woah…. While I’ve seen some benefit from spirituality, you remind me of the MANY more instances of failed attempts to recover in religious institutions for recovery because of the belief that “prayer” and “miracles” are all that are needed to get someone through the process. They’re a pretty straight bunch for the most part. That’s a fine little talk.
‘My recovery and how I did it.’ I think ‘addiction medicine’ is in the state of medicine a few hundred years back, when, to heal a wound, some said, ‘this plant’s leaves’ and some said, ‘crocodile dung’ and some said, ‘glorious pus’ and others, ‘keep it clean.’ Each approach had its proponents and success testimonies.
It becomes a priority to trust the effects of the drug/addiction. Thanks, Bill. I guess there was a war of egos going on between us, during my adolescence, and he generally won it, being the big guy.
5) Another variant of 3).
Self-trust is hard for addicts to find, but when they find it, they may also find a pivot point.
I’ve always known that I can stop, that I will stop but I’ve been waiting for the right impetus to give me the reason to stop.
Indeed, these seem to be the cornerstones of a really progressive approach to treatment, and I admire you for putting them together so clearly and coherently. I see so many polar opposites in addiction and recovery therefrom that need to be examined.
Ego depletion has been shown to occur across many domains, but individual differences may play a role in ego-depletion outcomes (Dvorak & Simons, 2009; Gaillio, Schmeichel, & Maner, 2007). That’s exactly how I see it. But addicts have a very hard time seeing their future self as anyone but an addict. Your email address will not be published. In classrooms, indeed, discipline and self-expression are considered to be diametrically opposed. Worse, the individual may assume that he or she doesn’t deserve to recover and is just a lost cause.
A toxic ego can make it impossible for a parent to recognize his or her child’s substance abuse issues and to address them honestly.
And it really went pretty well. Just as much as an addict deceives others to obtain and continue using, he may also be deceiving himself by thinking it is the norm for him to get high.
Here it is, guys.
See the comment by Bill Abbott below. The alteration in behavior, especially moral reasoning is masked by desire & cravings.
Of course there may be feelings of remorse afterwards, but are these feelings of guilt/shame enough for an addict to realize it is self trust that is absent? But, as others have said, trust in others — professionals, doctors, even God — can be a very good thing. Yet treatment centers based on empowerment are starting to spring up, and I think that’s an encouraging sign. In fact it’s the opposite. This is ego depletion. If we try to undo some of the damage with each generation, we should be getting somewhere pretty soon. My whole approach is based on efforts to integrate science and subjectivity in understanding addiction. But seeing how so many are dying at an alarming rate and numbers have been at an alarming climb over last 5 years, many things need to be done. This post was very informative.